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A personal note from the family

Shane wishes to extend deep gratitude to all, for the support, comforting messages, calls, flowers, cards and gifts during this time of bereavement.






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Funeral For Pete

The funeral will be held at West Norwood Crematorium

Funeral starts at 1.15pm

on Thursday 27th July 2023


About Pete's Life

Known as Pete to his many friends, Anthony Peter Mallaby was universally loved for his gentle, wise nature and wicked sense of humour. He was a gifted teacher and proudly gay man who bravely bore the progressive ravages of Parkinson’s disease over more than 20 years.

Born in Stockton on Tees, Pete studied at Leeds University, then moved to London and qualified as a teacher.  He was a dedicated and valued IT teacher at Holland Park Comprehensive, also serving as Union Rep and teacher governor.

Pete plunged with gusto into London’s newly emerging clubbing and rave culture of the ‘80s and 90s. His sense of fun, friendship and outrageous outfits brought him many friends, both gay and straight, close and loyal bonds which remained throughout his life.

In 2000 Pete met his life partner Shane, but it was also that year he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease at the early age of 42. With stoic determination Pete maintained his usual activities as long as he could. He defied tremors, whirling limbs and occasional falls, to shop, cook fabulous meals and cakes and entertain friends. Even as his speech worsened, he could still them reduce to tears of laughter with perfectly timed dry wit.

Pete and Shane joined in civil partnership at Brixton Town Hall in 2007 and weeks later Pete underwent deep brain stimulation surgery, restoring some of his flexibility and mobility.

Sadly the reprieve could only be temporary, and as time wore on Parkinson’s remorselessly claimed one after another of Pete’s physical and mental powers, grieving all who knew him. Throughout Shane was foremost among Pete’s carers, and also made sure their West Norwood home was a bright and lively space filled with friends and love.

Brave and without bitterness to the end, Pete died at home with Shane at his side. Already he is widely and dearly missed.


How to access the funeral live webcast

You can access the live webcast by clicking the button below and logging in using the Username and Password provided. Please allow plenty of time before the service to login. The webcast will begin approximately 5 minutes before the funeral start time.

Username:​ nipu6404

Password: 932350

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Please contact the team on the number below to order flowers for the funeral. We can discuss what you are looking for and will hand write a message for the card. You will then be able to pay with your card once all completed.

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    A selection of floral posies. Approximate sizes are:

    • Original Height: 20cm, Width: 30cm
    • Deluxe Height: 25cm, Width: 35cm
    • Grand Height: 25cm, Width: 40cm

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    A beautiful range of sympathy baskets. Approximate sizes include:

    • Original Width: 20cm, Length: 30cm
    • Deluxe Width: 35cm, Length: 20cm
    • Grand Width: 20cm, Length: 45cm

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The funeral will be held on

On Thursday 27th July 2023

From 1.15pm

At West Norwood Crematorium

The family welcome you to make a donation to their chosen charity, Parkinsons UK .